A Dandolin

Stop is the new Go

Lately, I feel like I have been a bit of a magnet for a certain message. In two of the books I have recently been reading and in some of the sermons I have been hearing there has been this common theme. The message is: STOP! It has not been about stopping a certain practice or … Read more

Temptation vs willpower

Moving from the real to the ideal, or, how to get a good nights sleep!

Discipline, motivation, achievement and the like have always fascinated me. Apparently it was the actress Lucille Ball who said, “If you want something done ask a busy person”. Some of my best plans to be more focused, disciplined and motivated come to me as I go to bed and try to fall asleep. I tell … Read more

Coming out of the dark

What to do if you feel like you are in a “dark” place.

I think that all of us have a story from our childhood of being really, really scared. I was probably around 6 or 7 when we were on a Family Holiday and we went to the Cango Caves (See picture) in the Eastern Cape. My mother, who suffered with claustrophobia never went into the massive … Read more

Prepare your talks

Public Speaking? – Please, prepare your talk

When I see someone getting up to make a speech, deliver a sermon or do any kind of public speaking, there’s this moment of either relief or fear for me. I am relieved when the person takes out their notes and begins to talk. The fear comes when they say, “I didn’t prepare anything, but … Read more

Goal setting

Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater! Get fresh with setting goals – Part 2

If you haven’t read part 1, it will take a few minutes to do so. I don’t really recall the moment when I began to set goals again. I have had a general resistance to setting certain kinds of goals. I heard all that stuff about, “setting realistic goals”, and “setting faith goals” and “big … Read more

Be the change

How to take the speck out of someone else’s eye or How to get law and order back into society

Sometimes I count the number of cars that tailgate each other after the traffic light has turned red. It really ticks me off when cars intentionally drive through the red. On Monday, Christine and I drove up the North Coast and there must have been a speed trap at least every 15 km or so. … Read more

Lonelines

Dealing with setbacks (Why do bad things happen to good people)

I had been in pastoral ministry for a few years when one of the young couples in our church experienced a tragedy of epic proportions. Their two-year-old child drowned in a swimming pool accident. Nothing would ever be the same for them and their grief would be something they would process for rest of their … Read more